Almost everyone loves charming people, so who wouldn’t want to be one, right? The thing about being charming is that it isn’t really about the appearance. So you see, it is definitely possible to appear charming and win other people’s favor by simply making gestures, conversations, and other aspects. Charming people are liked, adored, and are pleasantly welcomed by people.
Ready yourself because here are 11 easy ways to charm everyone.
Be yourself.
The key here is to stay as true as possible to your true characteristics and personality. There might become not-so-charming traits in you, but you don’t really have to disregard and remove them completely. Just change them up a bit to make sure they can look charming. Being yourself also makes things so much easier for you.
The best way is to appear as natural as possible. Trying so hard will make you appear annoying to other people, especially if they see right through you, that you are trying too hard. The key to being charming is to look one without making it obvious.
Don’t make always make it about you.
Don’t put yourself at the center of attention. Let the other people do that for you. Instead, try to listen and ask things about other people. Show interest in knowing and hearing more about them. Chances are people will like you for asking things about them. They will think that you are not the type that only talks about himself/themselves. They will have a good impression on you and will think that you know how to handle a good conversation.
Remember the small and minor details.
When you ask details about them, make sure that you remember what they say. You don’t have to memorize or jot down the details; just the simple things about themselves will do. A simple tip for you to know which one you should try to remember: think of those simple things that you think can pop up in a casual conversation. For example, their latest out of the country trip or the business, etc. The next time you meet this person, ask them about these things to let them know that you remembered because you were really paying attention.
Give off a sincere smile.
What is more charming than an innocent and sweet smile? Imagine someone saying good morning to you with a genuine smile! Smile at everybody to give off a pleasant vibe. They will feel how friendly and accommodating you are as a person. Moreover, it’s so much easier to start a conversation and talk to someone who is smiling.
This has to come genuinely. You are not faking your charm; you are trying to show your charm to the world so everything should be sincere. When you give off comments, insights, and compliments, mean it. Don’t say it just because you want them to feel good about themselves and feel good about you. Being charming is being sincere, so you should not simply feed them sweet words to win their favor.
Be good at names.
One of the important things to remember is the names. If you are bad at remembering names, make sure you try your best to remember some other details about them although names are the best to remember. When they realize that you remembered their names, they will feel important and valued. Names are very personal so when you remember something that is personal, the emotional appeal on the other person is tremendous. You are establishing a certain kind of connection and familiarity with the person whose name you remembered.
Show genuine interest.
When you ask questions, make sure you ask because you are really interested and curious. If you are asking out of politeness, make sure to at least remember their response. In this way, they will feel that the conversation you have with them is valued and remembered and that you aren’t asking to have something to talk about.
Don’t go overboard.
Whatever your exaggerated image of charming is, forget it. If you go overboard or appear like you are overdoing it, it will really be annoying for anyone who will see you. Just be natural and be yourself. Impress them with your skills—but never show off too much! Never ever explicitly praise yourself. Let it come from them. Showcase the skill your most confident about or impress them and show your criminal minds in-game. Beat them but never be too proud about winning.
Use a sweet but confident tone.
Sweet tone doesn’t mean flirty. Sweet here means soft and accommodating. Use this tone to let the other person feel that you are a kind person. The other person will definitely feel at ease. At the same time, do not sound purely sweet and soft; add confidence and a bit of power to your voice and facial expression. In this way, you are projecting the confidence that will make them think you are more than what they can see.
Read body language.
Before starting a conversation, make sure that you have verified their body language. Do they want to talk? Do they feel like talking to you? Are they comfortable with the surroundings? There are so many things to ask before you even approach a person or a group so make sure you make a quick run through these questions before putting yourself out there. While having the conversation, continue to pay attention to body language. Are they comfortable with the topic? Are you talking too much? Do they seem uninterested? These signs will tell you and help you make adjustments. When they realize that you are receptive to them, they will get more comfortable with you and eventually, they’ll find you charming.
Know when to listen.
In a conversation in any social gathering, there are times when it’s better to talk a lot. But there are also instances when it’s best to just listen. Let the others take the spotlight. Give them a chance because honestly, the entire space is a wide competition of charms. Let them have their turn, then stand out when it’s your turn.
A sense of humor is a plus.
Nothing sustains people’s attention and interest better than a sense of humor. When you have a sense of humor, it’s like you can talk about anything and make people laugh and smile every time. So say cute things to your friends is really charming, right? But don’t worry if you are not a funny type. You can always compensate in other areas. Impress them with these funny and witty words to make your personality shine through naturally and even more!
Find a way to relate.
A healthy exchange is created when you successfully find something which both of you can relate with. Both have an equal share in the conversation, so the person you are talking to feels very comfortable to talk with you. The important thing here is when someone shares something, try to mention your own personal experience that you can relate to what has been previously mentioned. Connect to their lives by letting them know that you have a similar experience, too.
It starts with you. Before you step into any gear you will be wearing, the most important thing to wear is confidence and awareness. If you think that you are charming naturally, you wouldn’t really think of how to be charming in the first place. It’s just a matter of perspective so if you think you are charming, then who are the others to say you aren’t?
So are you ready to step out and show your charm? Remember that being charming is not a façade; it has to be genuine and natural. We all have different ideas of being charming but the point remains: being charming has always been in you. You just have to do something to let it shine through and to show the world what you got.